I’m sure you have dreamt about the day when you could talk to a woman and leave her completely speechless and intrigued afterwards. Unfortunately, that day has yet to become a reality. Here are some simple things you can do to turn this around and put the power back into your hands.
Call her out
In simple terms, “calling a woman out” entails pointing out to her that you have noticed how she is behaving when she does something that is: unacceptable, immature, indecisive, flaky, etc. You can choose to do this in a very direct manner or use humor to be more playful. If you are just starting out, then the best step is just to state the obvious (without trying to make it funny or playful) so that she may realize that you are paying attention and aren’t like all the other men in her life who let her get away with bad behavior.
Here are some examples:
1. She doesn’t pick up her phone calls
Leave her a voice mail and give her instructions on how to use the phone, “Hi, Amanda, I just wanted to leave this voice mail to let you know that you push the green button to pick up the phone. Now, we have that sorted I’ll look forward to speaking to you soon”.
2. She makes a sarcastic remark directed at you
“Was that sarcasm? You’re out of practice, aren’t you? It helps if you don’t scowl when you say it”, or “Sarcastic much?”, or “Was that you in the classroom when I was studying sarcasm101 in high school? You have come so far since then!” *high five her*
3. She deflects after you ask her a question
“Now, that was a brilliant way to not answer my question. So, now you that you have bought some time, what’s your answer?”
Set her a challenge
This entails you to set up the situation in such a way that SHE is the one that has to work to win your attention and approval. This is usually surprising and refreshing for a woman because you are not handing over all your attention and approval on a silver platter simply because you find her physically attractive. In the beginning, the harder she has to work to get your attention and approval, the more she is likely to value it.
Examples of how you can do this include:
1. Ask her challenging questions
Ask her questions like “So, what’s your excuse for being alone on a Friday night?”; “What makes you think I’m going to answer your question?”; or “Okay, so how hard is it for you really to decide between your hair up and your hair down in the morning?”
2. Play a game together and see who wins
Compete on who has the most interesting story about a particular topic; watch a couple together and role play on what they might be saying to each other at any point in time; decide who plays …