A lot of bad dating advice for men stems from the idea that "Honesty is the best policy."
To be fair, that maxim's absolutely true for many forms of human interaction. After all, just imagine any human activity that requires teamwork … and picture the result if the team members intentally misled each other. The result would be chaos and almost certain failure.
Imagine a quarterback calling one play inside the huddle and then doing something totally different when the ball was snapped. That would hardly be a winning strategy.
Or imagine a corporation where the Finance, Production, and Marketing guys all lied to each other about what they'd done, what they're doing now, and what they planned to be doing next. The result would be chaos, and soon enough those guys would all be in line at the Unemployment Office.
Guys understand the "honesty and teamwork" concept because we were raised to practice it.
But that's only one side of the coin. When interacting with the other team, honesty is not the best policy.
How well would a football team do if – right before taking the snap – the quarterback truthfully announced to the opposing players on the other side of the ball what the play was going to be?
And so you're honest with your teammates but you'll use every (legal) trick in the book to fool the other team. You'll keep your strategies secret, you'll change tactics frequently, you'll fake hand-offs, and you'll do any and every other devious thing under the rules. And you'll wear a "game face" … in hopes of gaining a tactical advantage.
You'll be an idiot not to, since the other team will also be doing every devious thing possible to gain the upper hand over your team.
But – here's the important thing – you and the opposition team will not feel even a twinge of guilt for doing these things, since that's the way the game is played.
What most guys do not realize is that women are not on the same team.
We interact with the opposite sex as if they're on the same team that we are. And so we tend to be much too honest, forthright and direct when courting them.
Bad move! They're the other team. And they know it. That's why women will trick us whenever we allow them to get away with it. And they'll have no qualms about doing it.
Most guys have not figured that out, and women are not about to enlighten us, either. After all, would you mention to the opposing quarterback in a championship game that you can hear him calling the plays in the huddle because he's talking a bit too loudly?
Nope, you'd listen in and gain the upper hand as a result. If it's incompetent enough to hand you a gift on a platter, you're going to take advantage of it! It's his own fault.
Women look at us the same way: If we're gullible …