Gifted and Talented But Still Hiding Out

To avoid being seen as too weird or different, and to fit in better with others, gifted children often learn to cover up their unusual abilities. As adults, many still follow a pattern of hiding.

When she began directing in the forties, Ida Lupino sometimes claimed not to know the best way to line up a shot or specify a line reading, explaining “Men hate bossy women. Sometimes I pretend to know less than I do.”

She was working in a more restrictive and even misogynistic era, but research indicates even contemporary girls and women often suppress their advanced abilities, and still pretend to know less, be less capable.

Sally M. Reis, Ph.D. of the National Research Center on the Gifted and Talented has found that many girls and women not only try to minimize their differences, but some “begin to doubt that they really have abilities.”

That is one of the most potentially destructive aspects of hiding: losing belief in your own capabilities.

But covering up, not acknowledging, or discounting our talents and abilities is not just something done by girls and women.

As one example, a recent article in a Malaysian newspaper reported that a teen boy was excited about astrophysics but “afraid of being ridiculed, teased, resented or ostracised, he goes to great lengths to hide his giftedness.”

Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton declare in their book Now, Discover Your Strengths that most of us have little sense of our talents and strengths.

They explain, “Instead, guided by our parents, by our teachers, by our managers, and by psychology’s fascination with pathology, we become experts in our weaknesses and spend our lives trying to repair these flaws, while our strengths lie dormant and neglected.”

Discounting or disparaging abilities

Many people may even discount their exceptional perceptions, empathy, high sensitivity, rapid sensory processing, intensity of feelings, concern for social issues and other aspects of high ability, or disparage them as “flaws” – especially in the face of negative social reactions and ignorance on the part of others.

Even trained mental health professionals may not understand the personality and psychological aspects of giftedness.

Of course, in some fields, such as entertainment, being different and exceptional is much more supported. People who can entertain are celebrated and rewarded, and many of them have exceptional creative talents.

Gifted adults and hiding giftedness

Mary-Elaine Jacobsen (author of the book The Gifted Adult) points out that exceptional intellectual and creative abilities “can lead to highly successful careers, sometimes in multiple fields.

She notes that eminent gifted and talented people can be inspiring role models, but at the same time, “glorified images of illustriousness can imply that early in life those who are truly gifted know exactly what they are to do with their lives and pursue their rightful lifework unimpeded – all the way to the full realization of their potential and the rewards of eminence.”

She cautions that the many barriers to achievement, including hiding abilities, can “easily engender deep disappointment …

Superdry Clothing – Sizes Explained

The problem is that Superdry sizes ‘appear to be different’ from other brands in the market (I’ve put that in inverted commas for a reason). That and the internet is plagued of misleading information on this topic. I’ve decided to sort this out once and for all. Or at least until Superdry change things up again. Superdry is actually very accurately sized. I know you weren’t expecting to hear that so I will explain why.

The Problem with Standards

There is an international standard for clothing sizes. The International Standards Organization, also known as ISO. They are the governing body for all sorts of standards, including a standard measure for the sizing of clothes. This should, in theory, give us a reference to be able to accurately choose clothes and convert between US, UK, European and other sizes. But it doesn’t. There are problems with the international standards.

Getting too deep into these standards is beyond the scope of this article so I’m going to cut to the chase. There problem comes in two parts; Using letter codes like Small, Medium, Large and Extra Large and clothing manufacturers taking liberties with the established standards. They aren’t obliged to conform to the standard so there isn’t likely to be any change in the future. When compared to other clothing brands, a good rule of thumb is that Superdry clothing is approximately one size smaller. They are sized to fit properly but as most other clothing manufacturers are getting more and more generous with their sizing, it’s better to go for one size bigger in Superdry clothes. For example, if you are usually a medium then you buy a large in Superdry.

Superdry Size Chart

Superdry clothing complies with the international standards; the problem is that other clothing companies don’t. Superdry also use letter codes, so there must be a look up table to convert a size from Small, to chest size or women’s dress size. If you’ve looked on their website you would have noticed that there isn’t such a helpful table anywhere to be found. I’ve developed a Superdry size chart.

Men’s Superdry Clothing Size Chart

Sizes are chest sizes, measured in inches.

Extra Small = 36″

Small = 38″

Medium = 40″

Large = 42″

Extra Large = 44″

Extra Extra Large = 46″

Men’s waist sizes are pretty straight forward. They are all in inches, the standard measure so you shouldn’t have any problems selecting your size.

Women’s Superdry Size Chart

The UK and US dress sizes are matched to the ISO standards and might not necessarily match up to the size you would normally buy in other clothing brands. It is intended that you go by the actual measurements (in inches).

Extra Small = UK Size 8/ US Size 4 = Bust 34″, Waist 25.5″, Hip 36.5″

Small = UK Size 10/ US Size 6 = Bust 34″, Waist 26.5″, Hip 37.5″

Medium = UK Size 12/ US Size 8 = Bust 35″, Waist 27.5″, Hip 38.5″…

How To Turn A Woman On With 4 Simple Foreplay Techniques

To make your woman experience pleasure during lovemaking, you need to first know how to turn her on both emotionally and physically. Women are very different from men, as they are usually not turned on by physically stimulation only. Emotion and passion need to be involved to get their sexual juices flowing.

Now, let us discuss 4 simple foreplay techniques to turn her on for great lovemaking:

1. Turn her on emotionally and mentally. As you have already known, to get a woman turned on, you need to seduce her emotionally and mentally. Keep her imagining those steamy scenes in her mind. One way is to read a romance novel together, and describe the steamy scene to her in very descriptive words. During this moment, do not touch her sexually so as to increase her sexual anticipation and desire.

2. Use sweet words. As she is immersing in the steamy scene that you have read to her, now take the time to use sweet words on her. Tell her how much you love her and how much she means to you. Women like to hear sweet words about them and how you express your love to them.

3. Foreplay slowly. Once you have turned her on mentally and emotionally, now it is time to turn her on physically. Take your time to engage in some sexual physically contact with her so as to bring it to the next level. You can start with slow kissing and move on to target her erogenous zones such as neck, spine, inner thighs, breasts, abdomen and earlobes.

4. Delay the act of intercourse. Once you see that she is extremely turned on from your foreplay, you can delay the act of intercourse for a while so as to make her want it more badly. At this moment, you can provide her with cunnilingus. Cunnilingus can make her achieve an orgasm before intercourse, which will make the whole lovemaking experience more mind-blowing for her.

How skillful are you in bed to make your woman achieves the best orgasm that she ever had? What do women actually want from you in bed? Visit the website below to find out how to skyrocket your sex life now……

Simple and Effective Ideas For a Spring Wedding

Spring is a great time to get married as it generally represents a new beginning. For this reason, many couples feel that having their wedding day in the springtime will bring them good luck. If you are thinking of having a spring wedding there are a few things you should consider to make sure everything goes down as planned.

While late springtime is a popular time to get married, spring in general does not share the kind of popularity that summer and fall season do. For this reason, you will likely get much better rates for wedding venues and vendors.

Spring is a great time to have a wedding if you are Christian. During your planning why not try to arrange a wedding near Easter and take advantage of the fact that your church will probably already be heavily decorated for Easter ceremonies? This will reduce the amount of decorations you will need to provide for yourselves.

One particular theme that springs to mind when most people think of spring is flowers. Springtime is great for floral blooms so try to incorporate as many as you can into your wedding. Flowers make for a great wedding atmosphere; they are not only great looking but can provide a striking fragrance too.

The weather around spring can sometimes be quite unpredictable. Make sure that your wedding attire is quite flexible so that you can either wrap up if it is a little bit chilly or strip off, not totally, if the weather is too warm. This goes for your dress too. You may want to choose a dress that matches well with a wrap or even a jacket in case it gets too cold.

A great way to carry your spring theme into your wedding reception is through the food that you choose to serve. Think of menus that really typify the season. A great example is something with lots of vegetables and new potatoes as a side. Strawberries have long been a regular feature of a lot of desserts served at springtime.

Finally, another way to convey the season of spring into your reception is through your wedding favors. Going back to the essence of spring is a classic way to convey the season through your favors. New growth can be translated to your guests by giving seed packets, bulbs, or small plants as favors. Alternatively you could really treat your guests by giving an edible favor like an Easter egg.…

Top 10 Sexiest TV Series

American TV Series are often loaded with sex scenes, and the production seems to try to squeeze in at least 5 sexual scenes in each episode. And people love it. In the following few posts, I will present to you our Top 10 of America’s sexiest TV Series.

Sex in the City

Showcased for the first time on HBO in 1998, this glamour TV show brings to us the ups and downs of 4 New York single girlfriends, Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte & Miranda. Each is either looking for sex, love or to found a family. A great series that treats sexuality with a nice touch of humor.

Sex and the City – Movie Trailer on YouTube


Californication is for men what Sex in the City is for women. In this series full of sex, drugs and alcohol, Hank Moody (David Duchovny) has sex as often as he can. Beautiful women, young girls, bottles of wine, whisky, joints… nothing is left out by this forty-some artist still broken hearted by his muse.

For a glimpse, search for Californication – Trailer on YouTube

The L World

The L World is the first series exclusively dedicated to lesbian sexuality. The explicit “women on women” sex scenes have as a goal to break taboos. Jenny, a young student in search of love moves in with her future husband, Tim, but ends up falling under Marina’s charm, a Latina sex bomb. This is the beginning of tons of questioning and loads of hot nights in L.A. where ladies have sex in public washrooms and all…

For a glimpse, search for The L Word: Season 5 Coming in 2008 on YouTube

Desperate Housewifes

What kind of life do women have in an uptown suburbia of the States? At Wisteria Lane, women face infidelity, relationship issues, seduction, crime, suspense, and more. Behind her perfect appearance, Bree hides a complex personality. Gabrielle, ex-fashion model is scared of routine and therefore alternates between expensive shopping sprees and extramarital relationships. Lynette tries to manage both her professional life and big family, while Susan always finds a way to make her chaotic love life even more complicated. And finally, Edie seems to love creating conflicts. An amusing and sexy portrait of typical house wives that was a great success.

For a glimpse, search for Everything You Need to Know About Desperate Housewives on YouTube

Tell me you love me

In Tell Me You Love Me, three couples in therapy have the most realistic sexual relationships ever seen on American TV. So realistic that everybody wonders is they really did it or not. They claim that aside from masturbation and fellatio, it was all an enactment, but the rumor keeps contributing to its success. Dr May Foster, a marriage counselor, meets the couples which she tries to assist. Dave & Katie, in their forties, no longer have sex. Carolyn & Palek, in their thirties, want a kid but the pressure is too high for Carolyn. And finally, Jamie & Hugo, engaged, …

Same Sex Weddings – Common Questions and Answers on Planning a Gay Wedding

Your relationship may be unconventional, but the premise is still the same: your wedding should be a distinctive expression and celebration of your love for each other. However, certain questions arise when planning a same sex wedding that don’t necessarily apply to heterosexual weddings – and that’s where this guide comes in. Here are thirteen common questions gay couples face when planning a wedding and some useful insight on how to answer them.

Is the term “wedding” appropriate for gay couples?

The term “wedding” is not exclusive to heterosexual couples. But maybe you don’t want to call it that if same-sex marriages are not legal in your state or if it is not an accurate reflection of your experience together. Perhaps you prefer to call it a commitment ceremony, a holy union, a rite of blessing, or another sentimental phrase. Call it what you want, but “to wed” is to unite as a couple, and that is exactly what you plan to do.

What is an appropriate way to make an announcement?

While tradition dictates telling your parents before anyone else – who you tell first depends on who is the most supportive of your relationship. If your folks have been anything but encouraging, you may prefer telling your closest friends first to gain the confidence you may need to break the news to your parents.

If same-sex marriage is not legal in your state, how else can you make it official?

Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. Marriage involves commitment, compromise, even a joint checking account. Aside from that, you may want to write up a relationship agreement that outlines your emotional expectations to each other and have it notarized, listing your partner’s name on medical paperwork as your spouse, and including each other in your wills.

Who should marry you?

If same-sex marriage is not legal in your state, then your officiant need not be “official.” A judge or a justice of the peace can consent your union symbolically, or a close friend or family member can do the honor. If you so wish, a man or woman of the cloth can also speak at your ceremony.

Is it necessary to let wedding vendors know that you are a same-sex couple?

It’s not necessarily if you don’t feel comfortable, but rest assured that vendors are not hired to judge you. In fact, letting them know of your unique situation may enable them to infuse creativity into your celebration. You aren’t the first couple to plan this type of event, so your vendors may have some good ideas from other gay weddings.

If friends or family members are not accepting of your relationship, should you invite them to your celebration?

If you really think this person will be uncomfortable attending, send an invite anyway and let him or her make the final decision. When it comes down to it, some people may surprise you. Just remind yourself that someone who does not want to attend because …

The Rules on How to Grow Boobs Successfully

Learning how to grow boobs can be tricky with all the mixed information online these days so I have listed some methods that were given to me from different women throughout the industry and women I know that have tried various things.

Keep in mind that some of these methods were not altered by me, I simply took them the way to have been created and this article to help women find a quick list for methods being used by women to help grow boobs.

· Massage your boobs regularly. Massaging is actually the best way for you to help achieve the bigger breast size you desire. Be sure to use proven breast enhancement creams to help increase the size of your boobs. However, there are some creams that have strong chemical content so you must be vigilant in choosing which breast enhancement cream is appropriate for your body. You can also massage your boobs without using creams by following the "clockwise inward" motion.

· A light to moderate massaging of the boobs is strongly recommended. Massaging the breathing areas of your boobs lightly is deemed very essential in stimulating the levels in making the breasts grow naturally. The light massaging procedure is primarily used along with the application of herbal pills and creams in the US, Canada and Asia since early civilization.

· Choose the natural breast enhancement formula carefully. This rule is considered a way for you to experiment on which formula is safe for your body. You must take note that most breast enhancement formulas are available in the market today may work on one person but not on the other. The naturally-made dietary supplements is said to work efficiently in enhancing the breast size.

· Avoid too much caffeine in intake as much as possible. Do away with drinks with high caffeine content such as coffee and chocolate drink. Also try to avoid drinking caffeinated beverages such as soda. Scientific studies show that caffeine and its other stimulants counteract the natural enhancement levels in the breasts. Caffeine also causes the body to quickly generate the nutrients' metabolism, which is said to cause problems in the innate flow of breast augmentation.

· Keep yourself hydrated always. Hydrate yourself by drinking an average of 8 – 10 glasses of water daily and eating lots of fruits and vegetables. Some women are believed to have smaller breasts due to lack of water and food intake. Keeping yourself hydrated will also help you live a better healthy lifestyle in the future.

· If a certain breast enhancement supplement you are currently using does not suit your body's daily needs, it's better stop using them before it's too late. If all else fails, the so-called "early adjustment" period in which you can refund the supplement you purchased from the seller or manufacturer.

· Make sure that the supplement you're going to use in making your boobs grow is prescribed by a doctor first. This rule is very important since this will …

Molescum – Molluscum Contagiosum

Molescum – also known as Molluscum Contagiosum, or simply Mollescum – is a viral infection of the skin. Molescum is actually pretty much harmless but poses a significant inconvenience for anybody who becomes infected with the virus. Molluscum Contagiosum in children is where it is most commonly seen. However, adults can and do become infected. Persons with compromised immune systems are most likely to be easily infected. Even healthy persons, however, are vulnerable to molescum because it is such a highly contagious virus.

Molescum spreads easily through skin to skin contact, contact with infected materials such as towels and clothing and often through sexual contact. The actual condition Molescum causes is a patch of Molluscum Contagiosum warts that are nothing more than pimples to the eye. They don’t hurt or itch but they can take very long to go away. In fact, Molescum resolves itself naturally in a healthy human but the amount of time it takes (up to a year!) causes many people to seek treatment.

Molluscum contagiosum treatment usually involves topical creams, surgical extraction of the molluscum lesions and even something as far-out as using the juice from a particular type of beetle to dissipate the warts. Surgical removal is generally quick and easy and if done well, leaves no scarring. This is a fantastic option because while creams can work in time, molescum spreads very easily to healthy skin on the same person. Molescum spreads especially well on wet skin. The main reason to get rid of Molescum is to prevent spreading it to others and also for cosmetic reasons. The molluscum warts are rather unsightly, particularly if they occur around or on the face or genitals.

Another treatment option for molescum sufferers is to have their molluscum warts frozen off. This process is only slightly painful and sees decent results. Children, in particular, should be treated as soon as a molescum diagnosis is confirmed because of their gregarious nature. Spreading mollescum to others is almost guaranteed among kids! For individual molluscum warts, you can remove them yourself at home. All you need to do is sterilize a needle and pierce the skin on top of the pimple.

Then you will need to widen the opening and squeeze out the little white ball. The white ball is actually the virus, which is hidden in this ball in such an ingenious way, that it takes the human immune system such a long time to indentify and combat it. Once you’ve removed the virus ball, apply antiseptic to the small wound and allow it to heal. Voila!

For more involved cases of molescum consulting with a dermatologist is wise.…

Mental Motivational Avenues For Exercising Women

For anyone, despite one’s gender, exercising is all about hard work and commitment. Sometimes though, both working hard and committing can seem utterly impossible. Between maintaining a schedule, planning exercise routines, laying out meal options and executing it all well and methodically makes “simple exercising” quite a daunting task. And on top of all this, one must come to the realization that hard work and commitment pays off gradually. Let’s face it, ladies, and especially in our case, results from working out come slowly, at a snail’s pace most times.

So, with all these bumps and obstacles in the road don’t get discouraged. It’s all too easy to get stuck in the exercising-doldrums, but don’t! Instead, seek out motivational avenues to lead you to a brighter and more inspirational exercising future.

Consider Exercising Perks

After sticking to a routine after a while, you start to feel great. Inversely, think of how awful you feel when you’re not exercising. Sluggishness and lack of confidence becomes a new and rather depressing tag-along buddy.

On the other hand though, you know how much better life is when you do exercise. Overall confidence skyrockets, you feel more mentally in tune to the world. And sleeping, well, it’s splendid, much more refreshing than usual.

The perks are clear, so what is it that’s keeping you unmotivated, other than frustration and lack of time? Whatever your reasoning or excuse, there are ways to detach yourself from negativity to put you back on a routine exercising road.

Set Goals, Log Progress

One way to stay positive and on course with exercising is to set goals for your womanly-self. Although, make sure that these goals are realistic and attainable, as to avoid discouragement and possible quiting.

By setting goals you’re challenging yourself right from the start. This is key. To have something to work for, progress toward and even look forward to accomplishing is a mentality trick used by professional fitness people. Set a goal to lose 2-3 pant sizes, for instance. By doing this you will give yourself incentive to work your butt off. And even better, by reaching for this accomplishment, you’ll be able to try on and buy new clothing. What more could you ask for?

Goals can as individualistic and specific as you’d like. There’s literally no limit as to what you can accomplish, ladies, so aim high and expand your exercising aspirations.

Power In Numbers

If you’re having difficulty staying motivated or determined during workouts, you might want to consider interacting or working out with friends or strangers at a gym. Doing this will spur you to work harder than you would while working out alone.

Mental incentive exists here in two ways. Firstly, if you are lacking the gusto to work out hard and well, your partner can be there as a helping hand to reestablish your vigor and focus. This holds true for your partner too, on days when he or she is weak or unwilling to exercise with full spirit. …

Five Cheap Wedding Reception Decorations

You are getting married. You want to make the wedding and reception nice. Being on a very tight budget you need some cheap wedding reception decorations.

Here are five cheap wedding reception decorations you can make yourself.

  1. Make a nice banner on your computer . I use that old track computer paper. I tear off four sheets, tear the perforated edges off and feed this into my printer. My printer prints on up to 8 1/2 x 44 inch paper. I have printed lots of these.
  2. Make an arch of helium balloons . This is much easier than it sounds. Just tie your balloons on a long fishing string. Tie this down on two sides and you can adjust the arch as needed. Very easy and cheap !! Do not over complicate this. It is as easy as tying helium balloons in a line on a thin string, the arch is formed by making them weighed at two sites.
  3. Cut out some patterned clip art. Maybe a few nice roses. Put on some other colored paper and wrap on tubes to make almost a container effect. Fill with colored wrapped candy. Not only a decoration but guests will help themselves to a treat. This can release some stress from some guests too.
  4. Use battery lights instead of candles for safety . Add several of those battery candles and place some pre-made flower runner on the table. This will look like it was hand made but only you know the difference.
  5. Find some nice cup and saucers at second hand stores , paint them to match your color. Use a porcelain paint. Put a few nice silk flowers in them. You may need to use a foam cup cut to stick stems in. These can vary but by making them solid in your colors they will look custom made. You can always find odd cup and saucers. They have such nice forms and are low so guests can still visit. You want to avoid tall centerpieces.

These are only five cheap wedding reception decorations that you can make. You will come up with more as you begin to decorate in your mind. Having a theme will guide you in different directions. Just try to keep an open mind and ask around. Other may have some suggestions that you can build on. It is not that difficult to make things once you start. Having a computer will help. You can add tags to favorites and the like. Relax you can come up with lots of ideas.