I often hear from wives who are trying to gauge their husband’s reactions and feelings after infidelity has rocked their marriage. Often, the husband isn’t very forthcoming about his feelings or wishes because he doesn’t want to anger or hurt his wife. So unfortunately, the wife is left with taking her best guess or just speculating about what he might be thinking or feeling, especially when it comes to the other woman and the other relationship.
I heard from a wife who said: “my husband had an affair with his ex fiancée. I worried when she came back into town, but my husband told me that I was just being silly, which is so ironic now. When I found out about the affair, I told my husband that he had to end it immediately, but he told me that he had no idea what he wanted and that he would understand if I wanted to move out or get a divorce. I suppose this reverse psychology worked because I agreed to give him some time before I took any action. I am not real proud to admit that I have been reading my husband’s emails. Last week, I read an email that indicated that the other women just broke things off with him. I read an email where she was telling him that she needed to end the relationship because she knew that it was wrong. She told him that she loved him but that their time had passed and that she didn’t want to take him away from his marriage. She asked him not to pursue her and said that she felt it best if they had no contact. My husband didn’t tell me anything about this. If I hadn’t read his email, then I wouldn’t know. He hasn’t really acted any differently toward me. And he certainly isn’t going to share his feelings. So I am wondering how he is feeling now? Are men generally sad when the other woman breaks it off? Is there anger? I can’t get a handle on what is going to happen now if my husband won’t tell me what he’s feeling.” I will try to address this in the following article.
Men Have Varying Feelings After The Other Woman Ends The Affair: Unfortunately, I had no way to know how this wife’s husband felt. I didn’t know him personally and a man’s reaction is going to vary depending on the intensity of the relationship and on his personality. Men typically feel varying emotions. Sometimes, they feel conflicting emotions. And sometimes, how they feel changes as time passes. But below, I will outline some common feelings that many men experience when they were not the one to end the affair.
Relief Is Possible: Believe it or not, some men feel relief because at least now they have a resolution and they can begin to move on. Quite often, they know that ending the affair is the right thing to do. But sometimes, they …