Choosing a Metaphor For Your Relationship – And Add an Activity For Your Perfect Wedding Ceremony

If you want to give your metaphor bigger bounce at your wedding ceremony, add a ritual activity to illustrate it. If you choose a common activity from your life, that will make it stronger. This will allow the metaphor to become part of your daily life. Every time you do the activity after that, you will reinforce your wedding vows. (You do remember that a metaphor doesn’t use as or like, right?)

So what sort of image might you include in your wedding ceremony that is sacred on that day and will recall the sacred every day there after? Best if it’s familiar:

  • Food you eat: share nourishment (bread) share delight (a berry or dried fruits) or share refreshment (wine, water, a favorite drink). Feeding one another is a lovely thing. Relationships need to be nourished. Carry through on this image at the reception if you have a buffet and select the choicest bits for your partner. Sharing food off your plate in a restaurant is also a way to remember what you did when you married.
  • Things that live: arrange flowers or plant a small plant. Arrange to plant a sapling, or a bush, present at your wedding, representing your love, in your backyard or in a favorite wood. Don’t pick something too fragile to grow. Love and marriage must be hearty and strong. That’s how they survive.
  • Water you spill out: wash your hands, water the earth, offer a gift to the ancestors. Purification is a sacred activity. Have hand washing as part of your wedding ceremony. Then consider a ritual hand washing as something to do each time you come home to your beloved to prepare to enter your home. It’s something we should do anyway. Connect it to your love and increase its importance and efficacy. You may not consciously remember what you’re doing every time you wash your hands, but your psyche will. You will treat one another more gently if you do that!

Here’s a tip: For three weeks afterwards, do the action religiously and think of the way you love one another. There you are, with your love for one another sealed into the sharing of bread, the planting, the washing of hands for the rest of your life. In three weeks it’s a habit!…

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How Women After Divorce Survive Special Memorable Days

You are alone like many Women after divorce and now, on these special memorable days, everyone else you know is in your mind doing something exciting with somebody they love, all except you.

The "normal noise", even all the unpleasant ones, is not there and somehow it makes you terribly depressed.

You have that restless feeling that just will not leave anything matter what you do.

You try to watch some TV you normally like but it does not catch your interest, you clean something and at least see some kind of result, but it is not enough, then pick up a magazine, put it down again, looking at some bills does not help either. The feeling of having to do some activity with someone is there and the idea of ​​feeling terribly sorry for yourself is sneaking up on you and you may be thinking "how do I survive this?".

Stop now!

Take a couple of very deep breaths now and think.

# You got divorced, yes!

# Your social level is finished, yes!

# Your income is diminished and you may have deep economic trouble, yes!

# Some of your friends have disappeared and turned out not to be friends, yes!


That's life, in different ways it happens to everyone, and great you found out all these things now and not later in life.

No matter how big a jackass you now think your former spouse is, done is done and there is no way back, this door is closed.

You must have had good times, after all you got married, so think of those good times and let those tears out, probably because you feel hurt, wish things were different and miss the good times. However history is history and recreating it never works, we know that from experience. So smile and enjoy, and add those good feelings ignited by memory to your surroundings now, this moment.
Fix yourself up a little, smile an extra big smile a couple of times, even if it is difficult and take a long walk. While you walk notice all the pretty things you see, feel the good in the air, watch the sky and enjoy, little by little you feel lighter and the smile comes out naturally. People you meet on your way may even smile back at you so you find out that life being alone is not bad, it actually has a lot of possibilities. You now have a possibility of meeting someone who really appreciates you as you are with what you also have learned from going through the divorce.

You now can create an added fresh social life. This does not happen from one day to the other and requires activity from you, but it will happen if you want it.

Your social level can become more satisfying, different and much better than before and the friends that turned their back on you are anyhow not interesting for you any more.

Income to satisfy

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